Comments on: Women need men and children to be fulfilled

By: Why Smart Succesful Women Suck at Dating | Super Awesome Dating

Why Smart Succesful Women Suck at Dating | Super Awesome Dating — Mon, 18 Jan 2010 19:27:27 +0000

[...] through providing and protecting you. If you don’t allow us to feel we are needed in this role for you, your not allowing one of our core needs to be meet. Allow the man to be a man, so you [...]

By: Jane Sample

Jane Sample — Sun, 23 Dec 2007 03:08:56 +0000

I disagree with Sanders viewpoint. Now that I said that I shall say this … why do men assume that women have some sort of magical “mothering” instinct encoded into our DNA that makes us all want to have lots of babies, oh and we all “naturally” know how to take care of them. And do it better then the father?? Just because women carried the child within their bodies for 9 months does not automatically make women the better parent.
Also … what does he mean we are no longer “socialized to be wives & mothers”??? Did we not all play house with our friend? Have Baby Dolls and Baribie with the Dream House? I would call that some fairly strong socialization right there.

By: Rebecca Thorman

Rebecca Thorman — Sat, 27 Oct 2007 16:22:03 +0000

@ Elysa – good observation! Thank you for contributing to the discussion.

@ Cristin – I agree. The family is important, but career is also fulfilling. Thank you for sharing your viewpoint.

@ Christine – It’s great that you are in a healthy relationship. And while I don’t agree with all of what Justin has to say, I do think there are some points that hold true. I think in my counter-post, I sum it up nicely by saying “Women need men. Just not like they used to.” Thanks for commenting!

By: Christine

Christine — Sat, 27 Oct 2007 11:38:56 +0000

I had to re-read the blog several times after reading the comments beause it seemed like they were commenting on a different blog. I didn’t read into the blog that Justin was saying that women shouldn’t work, shouldn’t achieve what they want. Could this be because I am in a relationship where I trust my husband, feel fullfilled by motherhood and have a challenging career? Men need to be respected by women and women need to be loved. It is that simple.

By: Friday Fun: « ProcrastinatioNation

Friday Fun: « ProcrastinatioNation — Fri, 26 Oct 2007 03:56:16 +0000

[...] Justin Sanders, who guest-posts at Modite writes: Feminism has destabilized society by undermining heterosexuality and the family. This perverse assault on gender difference is disguised as an act of “defense” of women’s’ and homosexuals’ “right” to be single and childless. Women have been duped into seeking “power” and “independence” (aloneness) through climbing the mirage of the corporate ladder. [...]

By: Big J (Justin Sanders)

Big J (Justin Sanders) — Thu, 25 Oct 2007 18:07:24 +0000

Thanks Cristin,

But I don’t your logic. Because I’m a man, I can’t write about womens’ emotions? Is the reverse true? Are you forbidden from writing about how men think?

By: Cristin

Cristin — Thu, 25 Oct 2007 17:51:43 +0000

This article takes some half truthes and runs so far with them that the arguments collapse on their knees gasping for air. I think the family unit is equally important for both men and women, a career should come secondary to either gender.

My personal favorite line from the article, “I’ve seen far too many women recite feminists mantras only to discovery – in their late 30s – that all they really wanted was a warm baby to snuggle.”
This is so absurd it is hilarious.

You would know all of this justin, because you are a woman?

By: elysa

elysa — Wed, 24 Oct 2007 15:09:22 +0000

Is is just me or does “Men and women are different, biologically, emotionally and physically – and there is nothing wrong with acknowledging that, so long as we never attempt to confine women to certain limited roles.” contradict “What is wrong is when women prioritize their career and neglect the deeper fulfillment of family life.”

So what we are saying here is let’s not confine women to a certain role as long as they know that they must have a family.

And also, women hold their own power. They can be powerful in themselves with or without having a man.

By: Rebecca Thorman

Rebecca Thorman — Tue, 23 Oct 2007 02:42:13 +0000

@ Dan – I think just as women should be allowed to grow and change, men should be too … thanks for your comment!

@ Stephanie – how you make me laugh Overpopulation is a serious concern in all of this.. good point. Thank you for commenting!

By: Big J (Justin Sanders)

Big J (Justin Sanders) — Tue, 23 Oct 2007 00:38:16 +0000

Stephanie,

In the past, bachelors were the exception, not the rule. The contemporary man is, in many cases, raised from birth to be a bachelor. (See, George Clooney, etc).

Do you believe in the concept of arrested development? I do. I have many 30-something male friends who have their own house and car who, when asked about finding a mate say, “I’m not ready, man.” One need not actually have homosexual sex in order to be gay. A 35 year old man without a woman is 80% of the way there.